Love of Death Self-Talk
What is self-talk?
Self-talk a person’s internal dialogue, which can be positive and motivational or negative and demotivating.
Part of this internal dialogue can be a wish for death or idealization about suicide. How can we weaken such internal conversation?
One is to replace this focus on death as an answer to our problems with realistic self-talk about life, death, and suicide.
If someone suffers from such thoughts on a regular basis then this self-talk or one like it should be used 6 times a day, said out loud if possible, and ideally while looking in a mirror. It should also be used whenever the internal dialogue begins to go down the road of desiring or idealizing death.
You should alter this suggested self-talk to fit you. Keep it healthy and holy. So if you do change it you may want to ask a friend if it seems alright.
Self-Talk to Overcome “love of death” internal dialogue
My life is God’s gift to me!
I don’t own my life, it belongs to God, but I manage it for God!
Suicide is a sin, not a solution!
The pain in me will only spread to others if I kill myself.
The people who love me the most would suffer the most from my death.
The people who hate me will be glad to hear of my death.
I will only multiply pain and suffering by my death.
My life has a purpose!
My life is going to help others!
God has begun a good work in my life and will finish it?
My life has great value for I am made in God’s image
My life has great value for God has purchased me by HIS blood.
I don’t know the future so should not take my life over fear about what will happen.
If I died prematurely, then I will rob people of the good I may have produced.
My life is God’s gift to me!
Hi Dr. Wise. My name is Debbie Deason.I am actually on a waiting list to see you at Reveal church. My girlfriend, Margie Kuykendal, who is a Christian counselor who specializes in attachment, said that if she needed counseling, you would be the one for her…& that is good enough for me. I feel it interesting that the first thing I see is this post from you about love of death talk. This is exactly where I am. So unlike me. I am in such a terrible sad dark place & I can’t seem to pull myself out of it. I have had years & years of Christian counseling, I have sponsored ladies, I have prayed War Room Prayers, I have lead Bible studies in my home, I have lead 12 step studies for years, I have done the steps to freedom…but for the last 4 years I have been walking through some very very difficult things & I am exhausted. The Word I cherish says He is with me & that I am never abandoned or forsaken but…at this point I am so exhausted & sad & alone & I am just so so so tired of feeling a state of suffering that I just want to be with Jesus. Every night as I cry myself to sleep I beg Him to please have mercy on me & let me go & be home with Him…then when I wake in the morning I cry again because I will have to face another day.i know that others have it worse than me, but I am still so sad & heart broken & I just can’t pull myself out of this pit I am in. I need a little help.
I don’t know if you read this stuff, I just googled you & you seem like a very busy important man…so, what an introduction! Hello. I hope to meet you & have an audience with you soon & until then, thank you for your blog stuff, I will keep trying my best to use the tools I have & will continue to recite this self talk dialogue.
Blessings to you,
I hope to see you soon,
Debbie
I am sorry I did not see this sooner. I don’t check this as often as I should. My prayer is that you will be encouraged and grow in faith and out of the dark night of the soul.
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